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My friends Emily and Janelle, authors of The Sharing Solution, are giving a book talk in San Francisco tonight. Janelle is know to break out in song during her talks, so don’t miss that. Here’s the details:
Janelle Orsi and Emily Doskow present The Sharing Solution
2251 Chestnut Street (Marina neighborhood), San Francisco, CA
www.booksinc.net
Tuesday, September 29, 2009, 7:30pm
Last week we had a World Cafe styled brainstorm to raise our collective romantic IQ. Love and relationships are private, yet so necessary to a great life. This gave our temporary mutual aid society around love and relationships a special energy, not to mention sparking lots of laughter. I commend those who came and shared their needs, fears, and ideas so openly. Everyone held space for the vulnerability that comes with love and relationships without taking it too seriously either. Below are the ideas that the group generated about dating and relationships in two 15 minute brainstorms.
Dating ideas:
-For those of you that hate dating, remember that dating is a skill. You can get better at it, which will make it more fun and increase the chances of finding a good mate.
-Don’t have sex out of relationship
-Or to put it another way, dating doesn’t necessarily mean having sex with different people, it can mean a nonsexual way to find someone to commit to
-Find and pursue your passions, this better the odds of finding someone who shares your passions
-Have no expectations, or to put in a Zen way, do not become attached to the outcome, be and act in the moment, this is one of the secrets of doing well in any field
Continue reading ‘Beyond Awkward, September 2009 Abundance League Meeting Notes’
Just wanted to remind you about our meeting this Thursday where we’ll share our knowledge about dating and relationships to raise our collective romantic IQ. You want more love? Come and get it. See meeting details here.
For our September meeting we’ll tap our collective intelligence using the World Cafe process to share ways to make dating and relationships more rewarding.
The idea for this event came out of a conversation with my friend Erica. Dating and romantic relationships are central to creating a great life, but for many people navigating the sea of love is daunting. Dating misfires and relationship meltdowns are the norm. There’s no way to make love pain free, but Erica and I thought that suffering could be reduced, and perhaps dramatically. The pitfalls we discussed included differences in expectations about dating and love relationships, a lack of frameworks for how to find a partner or nurture our most important relationships, a lack of awareness about what we actually need in a partner, and varying levels of interpersonal skill. There’s no question it’s complicated!
As Erica and I talked about the pitfalls, we began to see that many of them could be addressed. And what waited on the other side was something we all seek – more joy and confidence in our romantic lives. We also recognized that there’s a lot of wisdom out there, but it’s not evenly distributed.
So this is a call to all those who either seek wisdom or have wisdom to share. Let’s attempt to raise our collective relationship IQ in a focused burst of effort. In case there’s any question, this event is open to folks of all sexual orientations.
I hope to see you there for an experiment we’ll create together.
MEETING
When: Thursday, September 17th, 6:30-9:30pm
Where: Citizen Space , 425 Second St., #100, San Francisco
AGENDA
6:30 – 7:00 Arrive – mingle, nosh
7:00 – 7:30 Member announcements lightening round: share your passions, needs & gifts quickly
7:30 – 8:00 Break – nosh, make connections based on announcements
8:00 – 9:15 World Cafe on dating and relationships
9:15 – 9:30 Clean up, take the discussion to the 21st Amendment
BRING
-Willingness to help others and receive help
-Healthy stuff for the potluck
-Yourself, friends
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