Ten Ideas for Sparkling in Any Room
by Neal Gorenflo + Taj Moore
Mingle Dynamics are ideas for socializing at Abundance League meetings and other social settings. They’re designed to boost conviviality, authentic connection, and mutual support. They’re a simple way to model a culture that is good for us all, one where giving and getting support, pursuing our passions, connecting authentically, and rewarding social experiences are normal. Mingle dynamics start with a golden rule that will serve you anywhere you go, followed by skills that can help everyone shine in conversation. One part old-fashioned good manners, and one part socializing-with-a-purpose, these ideas make for a potent social cocktail.
The Golden Rule
Be a good host wherever you go. Put others’ needs first. Make sure others are comfortable, feel included, and have fun. If you keep the golden rule in mind, the rest will fall into place. If everyone keeps this in mind, then we’re all in for a good time.
Weave
Introduce yourself. Make introductions. Introduce those you’ve met to others. Include a small, relevant piece of information about each person to create a point of connection between those you introduce. Weave a network wherever you go!
Ask Questions
Ask questions to learn about those you meet – ask about their passions, needs, and gifts. Gain enough knowledge to be relevant, interesting, and helpful.
Be Present
Listen to others and give them the gift of your undivided attention.
Help Out
Once you’ve learned about someone’s passion or project, you have the opportunity to help them move toward their goal. To do so isn’t pure altruism: helping another is good for you, too!
Tell Your Story
Share your passions, projects, and where you need support concisely. Practice your personal storytelling and give others the opportunity to support you.
Include Others
Welcome others into your conversation. If there is someone near your group, bring them into the conversation and introduce them.
Jump In
If you are not sure who to talk to, go up to the nearest person or group and introduce yourself.
Mingle!
By all means, be a social butterfly, but transition from one group or friend to the next gracefully.
Sparkle!
Be bright and brief in conversation. Honor others’ time and attention. Ask good questions. Facilitate participation. Keep the conversation brilliant!
